I have numerous issues trying to get the xamdatagrid to style consitently in my app which has a mixture of winfoms ultragrids and new wpf controls.

I am using the 'defailt' theme which is close but would really like to have:

1. dotted gray lines as grid lines

2. the data error style in default overrides the hover properties (this looks very strange when the user hovers over a row which has some error cells).  how can i style the data error to be more simple (just a simple red outline and red foreground text)?

3. I indicate to the user which cells are editable and which values have changed by the background colour.  by setting the transparency on those colours it seems to 'combine' the colour with the defaults, but i'm not sure as to the correct behaviour for this.

If you can aid me with these styling points that would be very helpful.