I don't see any exposed property to do this and the suble blue tht is out of the box is too subltle I tried applying a style to the rowselector clicked event
((Row)e.Row).CellStyle = this.Resources["IGRowSelectStyle"] as Style;
but it applies the style to the row after I leave it and it remains.
Hi,
That's b/c the default ControlTemplate for a Cell, contains the Selected Cell's style, via a VisualState.
You can modify the CellControl's ControlTemplate to modify the Selected, Active, and MouseOver styling of a cell.
If you have Blend, the following help article explains how you can modify the CellStyle:
http://help.infragistics.com/Help/NetAdvantage/Silverlight/2009.2/CLR3.5/html/SL_DesignersGuide_Editing_Style_Properties_Using_Expression_Blend.html
Hope this helps,
-SteveZ
Don't have blend a snippet would be quite helpful