The property is WindowState. Set it to: FormWindowState.Maximized
The Maximized property only refers to the size of the pane when it is grouped with other panes. When the pane is an mdi child, you have to get a reference to the mdi child form. Call FindForm() on the control in the dock pane to get the mdi child form. Then you can set its WindowState to Maximized.
I think you're mixing things (or I didn't understand). If you want to use Microsoft MDI you just need to set the WindowState of the child form (which is System.Windows.Forms.Form), and set its MdiParent to the main form.
If you want to use the tabbed mdi manager, the drag an UltraTabbedMdiManager to the form and this will save you from setting the WindowState, but you still need to set the MdiParent.
I attached a sample