Yeah, as I thought, that's a GroupByRow.

'e.Row.Appearance.BackColor = Color.Red --> creates a red bar on the left hand side of the grid
End Sub

I cannot find the right Appearance to change for the life of me. I know we are in the right area because the DescriptionWithSummaries returns the right value but where is the property to change that font color and stuff?

I'm spent all the time I can on such a small detail and must move on. So if you have a solution, that is great otherwise I will leave this and continue on with more important aspects.

 Thanks for all your help Mike. I really appreciate it.

    When I try this same line of code, it changes the color of the GroupByRow, in addition to the GroupByRowConnector area (the empty space to the left of the actual rows and under the GroupByRow).

    I was under the impression that you only wanted to change the color of a single GroupByRow, but sice there is no 'if' statement here, it looks like maybe you just want all GroupByRows. If that's the case, it wouldbe better to set: 

 
        private void ultraGrid1_InitializeLayout(object sender, Infragistics.Win.UltraWinGrid.InitializeLayoutEventArgs e)
        {      
            e.Layout.Override.GroupByRowAppearance.BackColor = Color.Red;
        }

Thanks Mike,
I had only one  value Grouped showing and it wasn't changing. With more than one it shows up the same as your image. I guess i must be trying to change the selected backcolor. Thanks for all your help.