How can I get a reference to the framework element during the InitializeRecord event?
Do you mean the DataRecordPresenter? It is not yet generated. In the InitializeRecord only the record is initialied, not the presenter. If you want to make some styling you should use a style for the element and/or a converter (IValueConverter).
Ok here is what I am trying to accomplish. I have a custom control in a CellValuePresentStyle, my custome control has a property that gets set in the control. I would like to bind the value of that property to another cell in the grid.